Wednesday, February 6, 2013

IWSG- Stressed?

This is my post for the Insecure Writer's Support Group. It's a group thought up by the ninja himself, Alex J. Cavanaugh. The group posts the first Wednesday of every month and is a wonderful way to support and get encouragement from and for your fellow writers. If you would like to join the group or see the other blogs that participate in it go HERE.


Last month I talked about being on a roller coaster. The constant ups and downs of a writers life. One minute I'm feeling great and the next, yeah not so much. Well, this month I'm on a low.

Unfortunately, it has nothing to do with writing and everything to do with life, it's been a little difficult lately. I won't get into the gory details, but needless to say I've been a little stressed. So, instead of escaping into my make-believe world, the place that makes me happy and doing the thing that makes me happy, I've been dry. I haven't written much—about 1,000 words in the past month. And that makes me feel even worse. But for whatever reason I just can't. I feel so overwhelmed with life that when I go to sit down to write I'd rather watch TV or read instead.

How do you cope when your stressed? Do you stay away from writing or embrace it?


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20 comments:

T. Drecker said...

Lol! I haven't written much more than you :) We have a lot of uncertainties in our family right now, which make it impossible for me to sit down and write too. It's more due to stress than time. But I keep telling myself that this is one of those 'phases' in life and that it has it's place and purpose. Maybe, in the end, it will be an unexpected inspiration ;) (Trying to think positive)

Scribbles From Jenn said...

Wouldn't it be great if we could just delete stress like junk emails? I've had those TV moments and I just give in to them. When I'm ready I read books on craft, like Save the Cat or Make A Scene. They make me feel equipped to jump back in the writing arena.

Annalisa Crawford said...

One of my favourite short stories was inspired by a really difficult time in my life. It actually turned into a very positive story in the end. Maybe when you have a little distance from the current situation, you'll be inspired to do the same.

mooderino said...

I try not to get worked up about stress, just makes it more stressful! I think it's okay to back off a little and not feel like you have to get writing done, there's more to life (and it all ends up helping with the writing in the long run).

mood
Moody Writing

stu said...

I find that's one of the problems when writing. People say it's such a great stress reliever, yet it seems to be one that a lot of people can only do when they aren't stressed.

Natalie Aguirre said...

So agree that last month was terribly stressful. I got so many new cases at work that were lawsuits and already had lots of deadlines and appointments. Plus I was sick but couldn't take off work like I really needed. I just grit my teeth and drink coffee to survive. I tried to get caught up on blogging and read a lot. That helped till I felt better. Good luck handling the stress.

Suzi said...

I usually would retreat into writing to avoid that stress. But there's lots of other things I don't do then.

When things are overwhelming you need to take that break. And if it's to watch TV or read, that's fine. You shouldn't force yourself to write if it's not working, and besides, you see what happens. You don't get much done, then feel even worse.

So don't feel bad. I think sometimes we expect too much out of ourselves. You've done NaNo, you've completed other projects, so you expect that all the time. But it's impossible to keep everything up.

So take your TV or reading breaks, and don't worry. The writing will come when life settles down.

M.J. Fifield said...

I think the particular type of stress will determine whether I'm writing or running in circles around my neighborhood (or eating my way through a two pound bag of chocolate).

If I can use the stress, I write, but I try not to force the issue too much. It's okay to watch TV or read a book instead.

ilima said...

:( I find writing to be an outlet, and am always my happiest on days I write. It's hard to get started, though, when there are so many other things to worry about. I'm sorry about all your stress.

Rena said...

I totally suffer from the paralyzed by overwhelming odds. When I'm in that place, I cut off the writing thinking that I'll use the extra time to sort stuff out, but it never seems to help. And worse, I can't relax because my brain is swarming with the thoughts that have me all wound up.

Good luck, and remember, your writing will still be there when you need it.

Barbara Watson said...

Sometimes a break from writing is good...and needed. And I see nothing wrong with focusing on the rest of your life and getting it in order before you dive fully back into writing. Give yourself the time you need. Writing will always be there.

Nicole said...

I'm in the same place, so hang in there! For me, I get the most stressed and crabby when I don't have time to write. If I can squeeze in even a little writing (or reading), I can deal with pretty much anything. But when life takes over all that writing escape time...stress galore!

Livia Peterson said...

I know exactly how you feel, Jessica! Life has been hectic for me too and haven't had anytime to write. Plus the countless distractions. Hang in there, you're not alone!

M. J. Joachim said...

Life is a cycle of ebbs and flows. You'll get through it, and when you do, you'll be that much better for it!

Jai said...

Sorry to hear that life has been crazy. Sometimes breaks are good and when life settles down the words will flow.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I'm sorry! What else gives you joy? If writing isn't doing it, go do something else and not just TV. Anything that engages the brain.
Really hope next month is better.

DL Hammons said...

I'm sorry that something(s) has you down, but you're doing what I would do. Every time I've tried to write through times like that I've ended up trashing what I wrote. If your not in the right frame of mind, your writing will suffer.

You know I'm here if you need to vent. :)

Tammy Theriault said...

when life hits, writing gets the brunt of it, and other things...
hope it all works out girl!

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Tia Bach said...

Stress sucks the words right out of me, so I completely understand. When I'm stressed, I'm just too anxious to settle down and let the muse work her magic. All our feelings ultimately make us better writers, or so I like to believe, so give yourself some time. Hope things are less stressful!

Elise Fallson said...

Jess I'm so sorry it has taken me so long to get over here. I suck. But I really hope you are feeling a little better by now. I'm going to email you. (((HUGS)))